In Fabulous’ exclusive sex survey, we asked the XXX-rated questions and you revealed all…

FROM porn habits to self-pleasure, thousands of Fabulous readers took part in our exclusive no-holds-barred sex survey.

And it seems that women are more sexually confident than ever before.

For starters, one in 10 of you admitted to watching porn every day.

“For many women, porn movies are a huge turn on,” explains sex and relationships expert Hannah Witton.

“But for ages they’ve been too ashamed or embarrassed to admit it, as growing up it was something that men did, not women.

“However, as attitudes have changed over the years, and we’ve become more open about sex, there’s also been a shift in talking about what pleases us sexually. Today, ladies are confident in knowing what turns them on and are not afraid to say it, either.

“There’s been an increase in women porn directors producing female-positive films, too, which has no doubt helped us feel more comfortable in watching it – and admitting we do.”

But porn is not the only “me” time women are enjoying on a daily basis. According to our survey in conjunction with sex toy retailer Ann Summers, an eye-popping one in four admit to masturbating every day. Yes, really.

And according to Hannah, these numbers are only set to rise.

“While it’s still a bit of a taboo subject, there are a lot more women talking about masturbation on TV shows, in films and in books these days. There’s no doubt that the more it gets spoken about, the more people will feel comfortable doing it,” she says.

Our results also revealed that an impressive eight out of 10 married women admitted to using sex toys regularly, compared to just 54% of singletons – with clitoral stimulation devices proving the most popular at 83%.

That’s nearly double the number of people who favoured a trusty vibrating rabbit.

“Sex toys can be loads of fun to use on your own or with a partner,” says Hannah.

“And it should be noted that just because a woman in a relationship uses them, it doesn’t mean she has an unsatisfactory sex life. Perhaps she just loves sex and wants to enhance the experience.

“Whether you’re single or not, toys shouldn’t be considered as a replacement for anything, but instead something that’s adding to it.”

However, while we’re big on self-pleasuring in the bedroom, it appears we need to work on a different kind of self-love, as nearly half of women revealed that you worry more about your tummies than your performance during sex, and seven out of 10 of you are unhappy with your bodies.

“Social media definitely plays a role in this,” explains Hannah.

“The sheer number of ‘perfect’ bodies we’re exposed to just scrolling through Instagram, for example, can have a negative effect on how we perceive ourselves. This is such a shame, because rest assured the person you’re having sex with certainly isn’t thinking the same things that you are about your body.”

But while we may still be wrestling with age-old body issues, when it comes to our own pleasure, we’re definitely in control.

“Overall, it’s a really positive message for women,” says Hannah.

“It shows that when it comes to sex, it’s not always about relying on a partner or putting them first. Women are finally making their sexual needs a priority, and that can only be a good thing.”

‘I’ve masturbated on the motorway’

Emily*, 35, is a sales rep from Manchester and is married with a five-year-old son.

“I first learnt how to masturbate when I was 16, thanks to my boyfriend at the time who was older and knew what he was doing in the bedroom.

Since then, it’s become a part of my daily routine.

I do it first thing in the morning and again at night before I go to sleep.

Sometimes I don’t even wait until I get home – I’ve been known to pleasure myself while stuck in traffic on the motorway.

I always do it really discreetly – no one would have a clue if they saw me doing it.

Sometimes I can manage it just by playing out a sex-filled fantasy in my head.

My husband Jon*, 37, jokes that I must be a sex addict, but I’m not – I just love orgasms.

The only problem with being so good at bringing myself to orgasm so quickly, is that sex can get boring if my husband isn’t doing it quite right.

I’m a very efficient person in general, so sometimes I can’t be bothered with foreplay and sex when I know I can get the job done in under five minutes myself.

I even tried masturbating during labour when I was alone because I use it to help relieve period pain, but it didn’t work!

I think women should be more open about masturbating – men aren’t shy about it at all.

I don’t discuss my sex life with mums at the school gate, but I do with close girlfriends.

For me, masturbating is five minutes of peace and sharpens my brain, so if I’m procrastinating about a presentation or a sales pitch, I’ll just nip off to the toilets to do it – when no one’s about, obviously – and I’ll be a lot clearer afterwards.”

‘Porn is better than sex with my ex’

Model Simone Wilson, 29, is single and lives in London.

“I’ve watched porn regularly since I was 18, after I first discovered it on satellite TV.

I found channels playing X-rated German films and was instantly fascinated.
The couple having sex looked like they were having fun, and it made me want to try out their moves.

These days, I watch it on my computer at home.

I don’t openly talk about it to my friends, as I think it’s a personal thing, but I have done with partners.
I’m not into anything too kinky or warped, but I like watching a man and a woman trying out different positions, as well as pretty normal stuff such as oral and anal sex.

I don’t specifically choose female-friendly porn – I just steer clear of anything too full-on or degrading to women.

I really like it when there’s a bit of storyline and lots of foreplay.

Unfortunately, one of the reasons I broke up with my ex last April was because he wasn’t fulfilling me sexually the way porn does.

When we were together in the bedroom, it was more about what he wanted and was over so quickly.

In the films I watch, the man always explores the woman’s body and focuses on making her happy – and that’s what I want.

Plus, when it came down to it, I could always sort myself out better than he could.

Since then, I view porn three or four times a week, and I know it’s probably made me raise the bar a little too high.

But right now, I just think why bother with the stress of a relationship, when I can feel so much better watching porn.”

‘My partner and I argue about positions’

Georgia Rose, 23, works in marketing and lives in Brighton.

“I’ve always been really vocal about what I want when it comes to sex. I don’t see the point in staying quiet, as my boyfriend Jason, 30, would be wasting his time doing something that I’m not enjoying.We’v e been together for four years and while we occasionally use handcuffs or experiment with different types of lube, our sex life isn’t hugely adventurous, so positions are really important.

My favourite is doggy style because I orgasm more through that than any other, as Jason nearly always hits my G spot. Unfortunately, his favourite position is cowgirl because he likes to kiss me and look at my body.

We’ve bickered many times over whose position wins. Sometimes we’ll compromise and start in cowgirl before moving to doggy. But there have also been times where arguing over positions takes the fun out of it, so I’ll just call off sex and go to sleep.

Thankfully, though, I usually win!”

“I send sexy selfies every week”

Sabine Roll, 30, is a stylist from London.

“I met my husband, Beto, 30 at a club in Munich, Germany three years ago. I was living there at the time while he was a DJ based in London so we had a long distance relationship.

In the beginning I’d send him topless selfies once a week to remind him of what he had, as I’d rather him be looking at me than searching for random sexy images in the internet.

Even when we got married in October last year, I’ve carried on doing it as he’s still often away for work and I feel it keeps the relationship sexy and fresh.

I usually take pictures when I’m home and a bit tipsy after a couple of glasses of wine.

I’ll often have an idea of what I want to do – perhaps a partially nude picture – or I’ll just take a bunch and see what I like best.

I usually spend around 10 minutes taking photos, then cropping them and occasionally adding a filter.

But I do have a line with my photos that I don’t cross.

Before I send any shots I think, would I be ok if someone else accidentally saw this? Which is why I never spread my legs naked.

I also think it’s sexier to tease than show it all off.

My husband still loves getting my photos and I encourage my girlfriends to do the same for their partners, even teach them some of my tricks. As long as you’re in a trusting relationship I don’t see anything wrong with it.”

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